Author: TONG MAN NOK

Small arts of living

The reading hits hard when those survivors explain how they resist different kinds of abuse. For example, Joanne did whatever opposite as her father asked to respond to his abusive behavior and Pam will imagine the ear of a blue elephant when her father sexually assaults her.

Domestic violence is way more harmful than we think. Self-identity, independence, will be incomplete due to it, making them even difficult to adapt to adulthood. For those who have been sexually abused and domestically abused still have to live with the perpetrators, their path of recovery will be even harder.

As Allan Wade said it was important to show that persons continue to resist, no matter in a physical or mental way. Yes, we have to resist and stop to make it happen again. Healing from sexual abuse can feel awful. If healing begins by telling, then we have to encourage victims to talk and make telling safe.

Something I learned from the passage is that feeling broken suicidal is not limited to the traumas of child sexual abuse, it can be more.  If someone willing to talk about their stories, as a listener, it is important for me to courage and makes them feel “safe” again.

The reason why we need sex education in schools.

After reading the paper of Rape Myth Acceptance in college student by Rosemary Iconis, it makes me understand how important we need sex education in schools in order to stop all the tragedy happen again.

In the paper, it mentioned that there are some myths out there around sexual violence and assault. Time and time again these myths prevent survivors from coming forward and getting the help they need. Some myths like most sexual assaults are committed by strangers. In facts, most assaults are committed by either friends, acquaintances or by previous spouse or partner. Essentially we’re much more likely to be assaulted by someone we know than by a stranger.

Instead of destroying the myths of rape, the more important question is how to stop the rape? Rose said that rape prevention programs must find ways to impact the communication patterns and behavior patterns of college students in their everyday interactions. And yes, the way is to talk more about sex.

Before taking this class I am kinda ashamed to talk about sex until I understand that the more we talk about it, the more we understand how to stop the tragedy. Whether it is our sexual organs, sexual orientation, or sexual desire. Only through rational understanding, discussion, and learning of all the knowledge related to “sex” will we be able to express and maintain our own “boundary”.

Therefore, I think that our society urgently needs to talk more about sex, but in a more educational way. That is to say, no longer sees sex as a taboo but treats it with normal things

And sure, there may be some parents don’t necessarily agree with sex education. However, I want to tell that your children may also be victims of sexual assault. If someone tries to sexual assault your child, he or she will only suffer more because of sexual taboos and ignorance. Knowledge is power. Rather than letting them receive all kinds of sensational, violent, negative or even completely wrong myths from the Internet or the media, it is better to give them real sexual knowledge through proper channels. For the safety of us or our next generation, we should consider the promotion of supportive education.

introduction post

Hello, my name is Tong Man Nok, I am a transfer student from Bmcc. This is my second semesters in Hunter college. I am majoring in psychology and planning to go to law school later on. I am currently working as a volunteer in an elementary school. Nice to meet you guys!