While reading this article I had felt a connection to this reading just from so many life experiences where I didn’t want to follow the rules.  Another reason why i connected with the article would be that I feel many people on earth suffer with not being able to talk about how they feel or experiences that they have gone through in a safe sophisticated manner; which can cause many different outcomes to happen some good some bad but the understanding of emotions and people I feel have always been a big issue in the way people live and healing is powerful subject that should always be looked at and talked about. To go against the grain to feel peace at mind is sometimes the only thing people can do. Resistance of any kind but especially emotional resistance can sometimes to a tole on us as individuals. Everyday people from all over the world deal with oppression, violence, assault, verbal abuse and sexual abuse everyday and my not know how to deal with these external forces trying to make people’s time here on earth any less unpleasant . It is human nature for people to build a resistance; sometimes this resistance can be described as defense mechanisms or tendency’s that have been built over time due to abuse, oppression or assault. These defense mechanisms are in place for the resisters to fight off the oppressors that which try to make life hard. Sometimes people who are in the oppressor position try to strive for power over the oppressed. People who are usually being abused that have resistance tendency’s can identify that what is happening to them whether it be sexual or verbal abuse, harassment or assault realize what is happening is wrong but they realize it is not they’re faults and I feel thats big take away in the process of growth. For people to recognize these unhealthy traits and try to themselves away from the oppression so the self healing can start.

 

It is an Unfortunate reality that young women nowadays have to be aware of wrongful sexual activity that exists in the environments they learn and live in. While reading this article it was shockingly disturbing to me that rape culture and sexual violence has been accepted by a patriarchal society over many years. A system that has historically let many young sex offenders off the hook while many women suffer the mental consequences of the experiences.  Then I start to think to about the accounts from the article and how many young women in the article share many parallels to friends & peers around my age group who confided their secrets within me. Those women who will be unnamed for the most part had suffered abuse with a boyfriend that had taken advantage of them and didn’t know how to adjust from that. It was no coincidence that all of these personal accounts had happened when they were very young. These ages range from 11-17. Some had taken, therapy, drugs, one even tried to find guidance through Church. Strangely non of them had reported their accounts and it had startled me. Many of them felt they weren’t going to be rightfully justified so why bother. One had consented but didn’t know what she had consented too and didn’t know how to handle that sexual encounter.

I feel that us as the upcoming new generation has to be open issues like this and inform teens at a young age the right from wrongs of sexual abuse. To have teachings of the the deeper meanings of the word “consent”. That sometimes it’s okay to change your mind in the moment. Give the youth clear indications and when and where sexual abuse is taking place; also give the youth indictions on when to have to diffuse those types of activities.

 

Good Evening Eveyone

I am totally overdue for this paragraph but my name is Shane Leguillow. I am a transfer student from BMCC. I had taken a year off to get my finances in check but I am a full time student at the time. I am currently a Film Major and I would like to double major. I have many expectations and questions that I like to answer and achieve in Sex Psychology during this Spring Semester. I wanted to keep it short and sweet but that’s a little about me and just my goals this year. 🙂