In this chapter, it can be safe to say that the ideas of sexuality has been normalized in neighborhoods, towns, and the cities; all throughout westernized nations. In certain nations, there are areas containing the “red light district” or any other alias for some street prostitution; whether illegal or not. Sex can even happen in the streets, parks, flats, saunas, and brothels. In Japan, there are even places called “Love Hotels”, for people to have intimacy elsewhere other than their homes. The point is that sex is normalized and can happen anywhere, specifically in private homes where couples enjoy their moments. The chapter also talks about gender roles when it comes to a marriage. The female are often expected to do the chores, raise the children’s, cook food, while the male just provides and feeds the family. However, its been stated that lesbians and gay couples most of the times share these tasks. It also talks about the dangers of sex which includes rapist, pedophiles, and incest. It was stated that some English Market residents feel that unaccompanied male refugees can be potential rapists. The introduction of the Megan law and the Sarah law was a turning point for pedophiles, which made people more aware of sex offenders that are living in their neighborhoods. In addition to this, it also mentions how household characteristics has been built on the assumption of heterosexuality. But as time passes and the city progress, the household characterizes is built towards single people, and also for lesbians and gays. In some cities, there are even “gay” or “lesbians” villages meant for these people and these households compared to other areas may have a notable difference.
Author: Sen Xu
Johnson: Femininity, Masculinity and Gender roles
Johnson explains that biological differences between males and females allows society to judge people, and place a social standard between masculinity and feminine traits and roles in society. I agree with this because as he stated women are often expected to be submissive and feminine as their traits, and other hand, males are expected to be confident, decisive, and assertive. In relation to this, this shapes society into a patriarchal world where women are often tasked with the submissive and easy roles, and men are tasked with the assertive, physical workloads, and being the boss. Johnson explains that this incorrect because he explains how there are many factors such as the environment and setting. Johnson explains that biological differences between males and females allows society to judge people, and place a social standard between masculinity and feminine traits and roles in society. I agree with this because as he stated women are often expected to be submissive and feminine as their traits, and other hand, males are expected to be confident, decisive, and assertive. In relation to this, this shapes society into a patriarchal world where women are often tasked with the submissive and easy roles, and men are tasked with the assertive, physical workloads, and being the boss. Johnson explains that this incorrect because he explains how there are many factors such as the environment and setting. He states that a man can become assertive and dominant if the setting is at home with his wife and/or children. But when the setting changes to the workload and he becomes an employee, he becomes submissive because he has to follow and listen to his employers given tasks. I can strong connect with this because I believe there are many factors that place a role. I may feel more confident and assertive around certain people and yet feel less confidence around others. Maybe a toxic shame can be a factor that shapes our feelings and personalty too. In other words, our “behaviors and feelings” are shaped through the interactions of other people in certain social settings.
Sexual Response: Healing the Shame that Binds You (2/20)
In the “The Many Faces of Shame”, it seems like an paper that teaches people to accept who they are and to be happy in life. In addition, it also seems to be a good parenting guidance to teach children how to turn bad emotions into good emotions.
Bradshaw explains that shame can be categorized in two ways: An healthy emotion or a toxic emotions; and that the best way to reach a healthy mindset is having some type of guidance. As Nicholas Kirschman mentioned, people develop shame from early childhood as stated by Erick Erickson. The child needs some type of caretaker, a guardian, parents, etc, someone that the child can build “trust” and an “emotional bond”. And from there, that’s when either shame develops within the child. According to the Erick, “The Child needs good modelling of healthy shame and other emotions…”. The caretakers need to teach them the boundaries of the real world, which leads the children to become more curious and explore. And eventually they will discover some type of shame they will feel anxious about. Whether its shyness, or some type of human flaw, shame varies from everyone. They need to be taught that there will always be type of limitations, everyone is flawed and feels shamed, and simply accept it, and just try their best without having the need to fall into a pit of darkness.
And this brings us to the toxic shame. Generally, this type of shame is a feeling of worthlessness according to the reading. This will eventually lead them to a “false-belief system” and/or “shame-based identity”, making them feel they are not good enough compared to others and believe they a flawed human being. Then the paper mentions how this toxic shame can cause “life-damaging consequences” and/or “distorted thinking”, which of course can lead to some type of depression, addiction problems, or just feel undesired.
As mentioned early, this paper seems to be some type of guidance for readers and/or new parents to make the best of their emotions for themselves and their future children.
Introduction
| Hello. I finally decided to keep this class. So sorry for this late response! To start, I am a sophomore here at Hunter College and will probably finish with an economic degree. Honestly, The main reason I am taking this class is because it fulfills one of my P/D requirements and this is the only class that fits into my schedule, and make me a full-time student. And learning about human sexuality does sound very interesting. Still trying to get use to this website and playing around with it. Okay, so that’s a little about me. Thank you, and nice to meet you guys. |

